Our Family

Our Family
Justin (16), Keturah (13), Benaiah (19), Abishai (6), Melinda, and Jared

Monday, August 31, 2020

Year 5, August 28th-30th, 2020: Why So Tired?

 I'm tired. I need a shower. But I'm too tired. We spent 3 hrs setting in the humidity and heat at the playground. The kids had a blast, and the time passed quickly, but the sweat bees for insane. I didn't move from the picnic table, but I listened intently and added in my words here and there. There was another new to the area homeschooler among the 6 of us, so another new family to meet and make sure they were connected. Sweet mama with 4 kids the same ages almost as mine. Military family who moves alot, but having the same questions about parenting. So, I'm socially tired. Mentally tired, and heat makes me physically tired I guess. Then a kid picks up a pepper spray bottle they found in the grass, sprays it, and her sister runs through the cloud not knowing what it was. Then ensued the emergency. My friend (the mom) very sharply called her daughter over. This friend doesn't shout. She doesn't need to correct her kids often. She pretty chill. I was like, "Uh oh, she's really mad" and she hadn't even raised her voice. But after assessing the situation, she calmed down and the daughter that was in trouble seemed to be helping. They were able to get her other daughter's eye flushed and taken care of after awhile, but immediately went home. It was eye opening for me and the boys and we talked about why we shouldn't pick up other people's things at a park and how I would not even know what it was because I've never seen pepper spray in real life. True story. I've never seen illegal drugs either. I'm sheltered, ok! And I like it! Anyway, we stayed until the rain started falling and as soon as we closed the car doors, wham, the skies opened up. It was hard to break away from the conversation between myself, the new one, and one of our other regular moms. I had more advice to give. But hopefully, in the future, I can be of help. If not, then, it is what it is.

I spent the rest of the afternoon pretty much doing nothing. We ate a late lunch. Keturah said she took a nap on the couch, ahem, I don't know about that, now that I think about it, because she could have been watching the TV. But, she went back to her room and finished her work just fine. She did well on her math and science and writing paragraph. I think I will just triple check that she's not cheating on the science by copying it out of the book next time. The answers are on the page right after the test! But she definitely hadn't written anything word for word and it looked like she had studied more, so I'll give her some benefit of the doubt there. Using a textbook and tests (however short and not making them feel bad for doing poorly, and sometimes allowing open book), is new to her, so we'll take it one step at a time. I hope to help her learn how to study for tests earlier than Justin has learned. We still won't test in history and I'm not big on giving letter grades on much else. It's just something that now they really need to start thinking about because it's the way other classes run. I just want them to be sure to learn material to learn material for life, not just for a test and forget it. Although, I am realizing that there is so much information out there that it's impossible to remember everything you've been taught in K-12 if it's science and history. Language arts and math do build on each other, so those need  to be mastered to a certain extent. So, I did go over her homework and do a couple of papers with Abishai. I would have just done Abishai tomorrow morning, but I have an open house to go to and he would have been as unwilling then as he was this afternoon. He really didn't do that bad a job concentrating on his handwriting once he got it in his head to just do it and not scribble, and then he was free for his normal screen time. I know, I know, it's NOT at all the attitude I want but I am seeing a huge change in Keturah and Justin this year where they are not overly complaining about the amount of work and they are digging in quicker. Keturah will stay say "I hate schoolwork" but it's not as often or loud. And I can have conversations with both of them without fighting them now, so that's progress. Speaking of, Justin opted out of medication today because he was only going to do a couple of subjects when he got back from the park. I said that's fine. It's best not to use the medication every day anyway. Maybe he'll take it tomorrow when he normally wouldn't on a Saturday because he will be doing more work. We'll see.

And then, because the kids had asked again, but it was raining and I hate fighting Franklin Township traffic, I had Benaiah bring us a Chick Fil A order for supper. I've asked for him to do that before and he's refused, so I knew he was more than ok with it for helping me out today with a regular family sized order. It was easiest for me to text him what we wanted and then we could get the discount. And we now have our checking accounts linked up both ways, so I was able to transfer the amount right away with a tip. We had to wait 1 1/2 hrs for Daddy to get home to eat it, but it was still good. The fries were cold but the sandwhiches were still a bit warm. I gulped down my cherry coke right away, a) because it was already 4:30 and I was wanting my caffeine fix and b) I was hungry and c) I was thirsty. I didn't drink anything at the park because the port a potty was down the hill and I didn't want to excuse myself from the conversation. Thankfully, I didn't get a headache because I had already taken excredrin migraine before I left. I had just gone a few days without pain medication but the pressure was going down (remnants of Hurricane Laura were coming in) and I'm a few days out from my menstrual cycle so it's a good time to start my new regimen to prevent those menstrual headaches. Oh the woes of chronic illness and getting older. Blech. 

But I didn't feel like getting into anything. My emails were pretty cleaned up. Although now I found out that YouTube's notifications haven't been getting to my email addresses. And Google photos don't sync to a computer anymore without a workaround, so I can't get the OnePlus phone I was looking at, so it's back to the iPhone for me. The devices are the same price anyways. But, I did find out that a kids' version of a Samsung tablet is only $150 with a speical rubber casing and parental controls that you can exit out of later on when you want the kids to get on the regular internet. So, I found the perfect solution for when the current tablet dies for Abishai and maybe some more educational apps. Once I get Keturah and Justin off the tablet, I can get rid of some other apps as well. We've taken a risk having the tablet without many parental controls on it (I sometimes find parental controls cumbersome, I would rather check things manually or be present when they are using the device). So, I guess I made some progress in that department. Benaiah said to buy the OnePlus, it's what he has, but yeah, switching all my things from the iOS to the Android and figuring out the workaround sounds like a hassle right now. I'd rather just upgrade to the iPhone 11, as soon as the price drops. That should be when the iPhone 12 comes out in the next month or two. I looked that up specifically. That's why we waited on getting the PS4 and other devices. Just wait 6-12 months out from the release date and something else is on the horizon that will make it go on sale. So, can I hang in for another month or two? Maybe? My charging cord and port are now acting up today, so I don't know. My phone might have gotten a little damp from the rain shower we had. Ugh, technology.

After supper, we tried to walk around the block, but on our way back up the hill, we saw Grandma and Grandpa in our driveway so we quickly walked home. No one else was home, but we all decided to stay. Justin had gotten ahead of us, so he didn't see Grandma and Grandpa and ended up walking the whole block by himself. Well, then Jared went back out to walk and ended up talking to Jeremy for over an hour. Sigh, not quite the evening I thought we would have. I was tired, and didn't really want to walk, so the rest of us stayed back. Keturah and Abishai had gotten up at 7:30 this morning and ended up taking a walk to Grandma's around 8:15. I was still in bed, so Justin and I both snoozed until they returned at 9. It was glorious! I love that they can do that little walk. EXCEPT Abishai shared that they use the shortcut WITH THE DOG each time. Sigh. I don't want to walk on the Beavers' property because they are trying to grow grass. I don't want to walk on Veerkamps property because we really don't know them at all anymore. It's not that long of a walk to go around on the road! But Abishai told Daddy, "Keturah shouldn't take the shortcut and walk on the grass because the Beaver's are trying to grow grass." Yes, he remembered almost my exact words. He also spout off all the names of the Guardians of the Galaxy movie without hesitation! If only I could harness that memory for the rest of us and and for school lessons! Time to bring out the songs! And the learning apps! We haven't done much morning basket time, so I need to try harder again next week for it. But at least we had piano lessons two weeks in a row and the kids have practiced on most days. Yeah! That's a HUGE accomplishment to finally get that done! 

Phew, now, I can NOT look at my to do list. It's full of weekend type projects. Some are starting to bother me like the flower beds. Some need to wait until it's cooler to tackle. Some are just out of sight out of mind. I don't want to feel overwhelmed. And I will because I'm tired. And my brain isn't functioning right. Tomorrow will be better with a shower, and some time with old friends. Then I'll drink my coffee and hone in with energy and focus for the afternoon. That can be the plan. Sunday can be rest day because we don't have anything after church. We will have lunch with Benaiah at our house because Gary and Leah are out of town. And there's no evening stuff for youth group for this week or next weekend (which is Labor Day weekend) and then the real schedule kicks in on September 13th. I'm happy and sad all at the same time. I still don't know what it will look like. I feel like I'm going to get caught up in the rat race again. But the other family members need it. I just have to stay calm and heed the advice I keep giving to everyone else. Stick to making my lists, planning things out, saying no a lot, and focusing on what's important in this season. We've got a lot of good things going. Everybody seems settled. I try not to think about Benaiah too much. Him being away from home does lesson my burden in a way. He obviously didn't abandon us and we didn't abandon him, as evidenced today with helping with the CFA order, coming in for a minute to set up the bank account link, giving me a couple of pointers about phones, and then out he went. I think he was right that we just need some space to readjust to this new season. We'll get there. We are settling. And it is good.

Well, I "stepped away" for a moment to write something to talk to my counselor about and to update some thoughts for a phone call I'm going to have with an IAHE member, and at least for those few moments, I had a clear head. So, there's that. It's helpful to remember my foggy brain is not a constant. I do have clarity of thought often enough. I'll dig in more tomorrow because I can't stand too many days of idleness with projects sitting all around me.

Here comes Hurricane Laura!

Oh, this was in August's issue, so, where's my copy of that? This from their email version of the magazine.

So, I play this Idle Miner game on my phone and Justin's small group leader does, too. So, I asked him how he's so far ahead of me. Well, he didn't give me many tips, but just said he's played longer he thinks. And has more power ups stored up. Not sure how, but ok then. Not sure what those golden ribbons are on the far right, but I want them.

Berkley, Wolf's brother, makes knives. And his branding is so neat!

Oh, Ron has played 90 events and each event lasts a week. That makes sense because I've only played 80 weeks?! How?!

Hm, not exactly even.


These roses are the biggest and best I've ever seen! We had yellow roses (I think) for my mom's funeral. I can't remember if it or another flower was her favorite flower because honestly, I don't think she had one. She had favorite bird, cardinal, and loved wolves. My dad usually got her cards, not flowers.





Today's mashup included the Hot Wheels garage.


The perks of having your son work at CFA and being your personal Uber Eats driver.

Learning a new game of jump on the milk jug and the top pops off and goes everywhere. Abishai loved it. Daddy said he used to do it with the other kids. A long, long, time ago, perhaps.






Ok, that's twice now today that I've wasted my time just scrolling and not doing anything. But I made up for it earlier. I took my shower and then headed down 30 minutes south to Franklin, INDIANA (which is just as cute and quaint ans quiet as Franklin, TENNESSEE), for graduation open house of a special young lady we've known pretty much her whole life since we were in a life group called Couples of Christ with her parents. Sweetest girl, with the sweetest boyfriend (homeschooled I might add, he was, she wasn't) of all of two months and adorable as can be together. They have some great plans ahead of them, too. Smart kids. Well, young adults now. It was good to see our friends, too. And have some alone time in the car. And use my giftcard for Starbucks from Shauna's sister Stasia. I got up to the ordering thing at Starbucks and didn't see what I wanted on the window. The barista did his best to kindly lead me in some kind of direction. I simply asked if he could a mocha frappacino with raspberry syrup if they had it. He said he could, so that's what I got. Made with almond milk and real whip cream of course. Oh my  word. So deliciously sweet and took me right back to the hot mochas with raspnberry shots at Tim Horton's. I had raspberry on the brain after I didn't see the peppermint one I typically get in the summer because Amazon had put in on my "suggested" list the other day. It was either me, or Leah, or Shauna or two of us or something that bought me some raspberry syrup for Christmas or something in the big bottles that the cafe's have. It lasted me a whole year. It's tempting to get one again. And always chocolate when I'm at Starbucks or any coffee shop. When I get a coffee at a cafe shop, I treat it as dessert. I pay the big bucks and the big calories. I can have regular coffee at home just fine. But it was super yummy.

And then when I was telling Stasia about it, she had just been talking to her cousin and thought she was replying to her cousin and got all confused by my answers. She did finally figure it out though. Whoops! Too funny! I flitted away part of the afternoon, but got moving again around 5pm. I knocked out a couple of little projects, like Benaiah's old clothes he didn't want, Justin went through the last of his personal stuff (I will deal with his cast offs when I open the boxes from my aunt as well.) It was cool enough to weed the garden. We lifted the slip and slide up to fully dry out before permanently putting it away for the year. Jared did not get to the pool. But he did (with my full knowledge) buy this Ultimate Hot Wheels garage (worth nearly $200 new) from the Smith's for next to nothing before they put it in the neighborhood garage sale. Check out the pictures of it below because it's huge. We didn't need it, however, it holds over 130 cars and it's something Abishai will definitely get a lot of use out of it. We will finish putting away the majority of his Legos so he can focus on his hot wheels on the table for awhile. I also need to put away some of the hands on things like the magic sand or regular sand or play dough because they are way too close together in the fireside room and I'm afraid they will get mixed up in each other. One toy in, put another toy away. Oh boy. This kid. He gets it all, doesn't he? But how can we not? He's so imaginative. And don't forget, I just spent $60 just because I could on special drawers for Justin's Legos. So, there is some fairness there. And half of the price for the Razorcrest Lego set coming in September for Justin's birthday. And, and, and....

Justin did some homework today, but I forgot to check it. Keturah was super bored all day. She and Abishai did walk the dog while Jared and I were still in bed. I made her pick up her loose Legos because I was tired of kicking them. She is trying to remake her oldest Lego sets by finding all the pieces in the piece lists at the back of the instruction booklets. Yes, they put a list of what type of pieces, with drawings of them, and how many at the back of the booklets. I told her to get a tray at least so they are contained. I don't mind if the tray is on the floor but loose pieces get lost. Yup, I think that was it for the day. Tomorrow is Sunday, the in laws are out of town, so Benaiah is coming to our house after helping out at church. In fact, Leah sent photos of a buffalo farm that is right outside the window of their hotel. Crazy! They are somewhere in southern Illinois. Oh, and she also wrote a short article for this week's e-newsletter for e2 addressed to elder wives! Woot! Woot!

And lastly, Jared and I still can't come to an agreement on a few things, including which comes first, the kitchen floor or my bathroom remodeling project. So, lightbulb, let's just get a contractor, price them out, see how long each one will take, then add lots of time in for the problems that will occur, and knock them both out. The money is there. The argument is which is most important. And which one is less vain, less selfish, more structural and less cosmetic. So, I reached out to two people, a peer and a mentor and asked them if I was really being sinful/selfish/prideful and showed them photos of all the issues, cosmetic included, that our main bathroom has. They weren't disgusted but did tell me that they BOTH struggle with the same thing. Are we being content? Are we being good steward? Could the money be used in a different way for the Kingdom? Of course it can be. But I also consider our home to be a place of ministry and a way to do Kingdom work with our kids and be hospitable to others. I've never heard people complain about the bathroom and I try to ignore it. But it's been three years. It's cosmetically very, very bad. Poor, shoddy work. Same as everywhere else in the house. I do have a piece of me that is selfish and vain. I've "made do" in rundown homes for years and years. I just want something that looks somewhat pretty, half decent, not modern, but clean and fresh. I'm asking for spots to be fixed around the baseboards. New paint. The second sink's plumbing to be fixed. The gaping hole at the top of the light fixture that was made 3 years ago when we rewired part of the bathroom to be patched up. Other patchwork to be done. And the whole bathtub and probably some of the plumbing to be replaced. I have done my due diligence and scrubbed and scrubbed. I'm not asking for a new layout of the bathroom. I'm not asking for new fixtures unless it's a new bathtub faucet set up. The floor and toilet are already new. I want some of the paint to remain the same. Is that too much to ask? I've NEVER asked for something to be painted. It's been offered, but I've never asked for it. Ok, I asked for help with Keturah's room. But other than that, I don't do makeovers of rooms like other people do. I don't buy matching decor. I make do with the spaces and lighting I have. And lack of window dressings in this case as well, which I'm still totally fine with because I love the shower curtain that I'm using as the window curtain just draped over the curtain rod. Weird perhaps, but it was the one we had on PEI. Our current shower curtain was bought for the condo and has the same colors as PEI. This will be my "at the beach" bathroom. I have some other ideas as well. Simple stuff really. But Jared says no. It's not necessary or it's not priority. Which makes me feel like my wants and desires and even needs aren't priority. So, let's just do them both.Why not. We'll go live at Gary and Leah's for a week or whatever. But if we are doing part of the kitchen floor, we are doing it all. And adding baseboards. And really, the walls needed to be painted. The cupboards need replaced desperately as they look like they were original to the house.  But I digress....I just want to live in nice spaces before I get to my retirement years. It's my midlife crisis or what not. I just figured that when I got to this age, I would have a really nice home. Nope. Not in the cards. It's a home. But it needs a lot of work.  Anyway, it was good to hear my friends say that they struggle, too. It makes me feel like I'm not being flippant and crying for what I want. I have thought this through. I am or will be at peace with it. The money is there. But getting Jared to agree to go ahead with it is the problem. I don't want him struggling to do it or really be involved in doing the labor. He doesn't have time and it's too frustrating for him. We will hire it done. 

And that's my story. And it's now 10:30. Poo. I don't know where church is tomorrow, but we have nothing in the  evening for the next two weeks. We'll catch up on the pool and school tomorrow.

Well, this is new. Keturah has been taking care of Socks better because she wants another pet. However, I think this is good for her and him anyway. He now follows her more closely. She's going to have some very special memories to savor when he's gone (someday, he's not sick, but we are well aware of his 10 years of age).

What do you want?


"Wake up Sis! It's time for my walk and treats at Grandma's house!"

"More pat pats!" He's always been a snuggler. I made sure of that! And he's SO SOFT! We brush him daily, but the last time he had a full bath was probably 8 years ago. I think even after a couple of beach days, we just toweled him dry.

More lovin's.

Best calories (and giftcard money) spent ever!

Keturah still has an issue (as do I) with picking! Oh my word! I noticed blood coming through her shirt! And discovered this! This is as big and almost as deep as any one of the biopsies I did last year at the dermatologist's office. That's going to take a long time to heal!

Adrienne was showing us this old alarm clock she found at Jim's aunt's house. Well, I had to share that we are still using the alarm clock that Jared had for at least half of his childhood and that we've used off and on over the years. We are now using it with Justin because the one we bought him never goes off properly. We don't need the alarm part in our room because we have phones to help us with that. I do like to just roll over and see what time it is though without turning on my phone. So we just switched the clocks.

Nice get up, Justin! Sorting out the last bits of his personal things from the room makeover.




I think this yellow rose opened up even further! It's massive! And oh so soft!

I knew approximately what this looked like and how big it was, but I didn't realize it was THIS big! Oh my word! Where are we going to put this?!




My new essential oils came for helping our brains function better so I had to do some rearranging. I actually want more oils on the counter instead of in my drawer, so I'm glad I had one more of those nail polish holders hanging around. (I had bought them for my oils). Now I just need to write me up a cheat sheet to remember what do use them all for and use them consistently. I was smelling the new ones and some must of got on my skin under my nose because I still smell it!

My single oil collections (vs. blends of different oils). Citrus on the left; lemon, lavender and peppermint (LLP for the seasonal allergy blend, the basic 3 oils, on top row; and a couple of other favorites on the right.

Lots of new blends. I put them in alphabet order. The bigger ones had to go on the top row.

Like I said, this thing is massive. It holds 130+ cars. Perfect for sorting and playing. The circular ramp goes up automatically. You can race two cars down the track. There's a repair floor. There's a police/jail. The gorilla climbs up the tower, too. It's insane!




Gorgeous sunset tonight!












It's graphics like these that make me think I have ADD. I go through and feel most of these things. Time will tell if I really have it or not.

Wow, that graphic about ADD started a bit of a conversation when I shared it on FB, whoops! Anyway, it was a better day today. Temps were good, church was ok at Smiths, had a good nap, made the kids watch a movie instead of individual time, etc etc Benaiah came over for lunch. He stared at his phone and glanced through his yearbook. He told me to keep the yearbook and/or put it with his keepsake things. He talked a bit over lunch. He also I think wanted to lay down on his old bed but it's covered with stuff still. Lol. He had been at church to do tech stuff this morning. They did use the recorded video of the band playing with him on drums for the online services today. I guess only one guy actually sang live in person. The church had said "live worship" on their social media, so I was expecting a full band. I don't know what others thought. Oh well. I tried to urge the other kids to talk to him and show him things. And then he just left to go do laundry. Apparently, Grandpa has been letting him borrow his fancy car. Now we look like thugs for not letting him use our cars, thanks, Grandpa. I can't remember when Gary let us borrow his fancy cars but I know we did use the Z3 a couple of times after we were married. So, off Benaiah went on date night and to the park with Ava today in the Veloster. Spoiled grandson, that's for sure. He's been saving a lot, so that's good. Otherwise, everything is the same. Work, eat, sleep, Ava, video games, shower, church, repeat. I'm guessing it's a lot less stressful without school to think about. So, for the first meal back at home, it went ok. No fighting at least. It was a tad awkward. Jared grilled chicken.

I told the kids not to use electronics and well, yeah. Justin used the tablet for "drawing" and "listening to music" and is doing his normal night thing now. And we let him on Minecraft this evening when all his out of state buddies are on. Hm,...I need to keep a close watch on that, because it was Benaiah's out of state acquaintances that go him into trouble in 2015. I'm sure it's way different, but it remind me not to let me guard down too much. Jared, Abishai and I went for walk to Jim's house so Abishai could show him his RC car. Well, they were having a birthday party for Devon, so Socks and I stayed out of the patio area. Abishai came out and said, "Daddy wants to talk to Jim for a few minutes." I rolled my eyes and said, let's go to Grandma's house. This could take a while. It wasn't a long while, and I tried to text Jared that we were at his parents' house, but he didn't have his phone on him. So he walked home by himself. We chatted with the folks for probably 15 minutes and then scooted home for bedtime. Abishai walked in front of the leash, so every time he was too slow, I would put the leash right up against him to push him along. The joked became, "I'll put a fire under your butt." and I would put the leash right there under his rear. He thought it was awesome! Oh and he also noticed Grandpa's flag and asked if he needed to take it down. He thought flags go up and down every day. Some do. Some don't.

And then it was bedtime. Tomorrow is a new day, a new week. Not much on the schedule but I have an important video call tomorrow at 10am with an IAHE volunteer. Other than that, yeah, school.

Oh, and Jared and I did talk a little. I don't feel like we settled things enough, but who knows. He won't get the bathtub and shower redone. He says he will do the patching and paint himself. I say his back is too sore and he works too slow and he doesn't make things pretty enough. He thinks the kitchen floor will cost $1,000's because he needs help with it. He's worried about retirement because we have nothing saved specifically for that. Well, figure it out. I'm of the opinion that I can't wait any longer for nice things. I want some pretty things now because tomorrow might not come. And if he's that worried, well, that's on him. But I lectured him about watching things I want to watch and being interested in things I'm interested in. I reminded him that I've watched things he's wanted me to watch and I do my best to stay involved, promote, learn about any of the jobs he's had. This position at IAHE is for BOTH of us. And I reminded him that I was disappointed in his behavior at both the retreat and the picnic. He had reverted to his old self of not talking to anyone, having his "meh" face on, and acting like he didn't want to be there. He didn't mingle. And I KNOW that he can mingle now. In a crowd that he doesn't know. But I think part of the problem is that he doesn't know the ins and outs of what we do. Which is ok, not all the husbands do. But he's got so much to offer! Jared didn't say much after I "lectured" him. But I hope he heard that no, I don't want to fight, that's why it's so upsetting when we aren't on the same page. I need to trust him to do the paint in the bathroom. He knows I'm concerned about his slowness, his frustration when something goes wrong, his procrastination (like not doing the pool I told him to do but he claims I didn't tell him to), yup. So, I guess the bathroom can be our Labor Day weekend project. I'll try to get the paint myself or we can make it a date night on Friday or something. I could get some paint swatches or something at the store and match them to the shower curtain. He could order the primer and things to be picked up. I'll get some more painters' tape, too. Hm,...but like Abishai, I have to put the fire under Jared's butt to get him moving because he did nothing of value this weekend. Again. Sigh.

 

A boy, his toy, and his dog.



Pretty clouds.


"I could do this forever!" as he swings around the pole hanging onto his RC car.




I use several methos for cutting watermelon. After one of the methods to get most of it cut out of the rind, I was left with some mush, so I mushed it some more and made a watermelon slushie of sorts. Yum!


A couple of pictures of Benaiah from his Senior Yearbook. He had a few on these pages about their weekly chapel.

Each senior had a quarter page to put pictures. Mrs. McCollum did a good job selecting from the ones I sent her. Gotta love his senior quote though. "Don't be normal." Great job!


The dried out slip and slide makes a great tent!

Helping Daddy hand grind his coffee beans.

A new music video for the song "Conversations" and a new instrumental/improv/spoken word (Scripture) album coming out in a month!

A boy, his book, and his dog. This is in Charlottetown, PEI, with Justin as a 9 yr old.  That pole connected with our high deck for our clothes line. Oh how I miss saving money by hanging clothes outside! It was still so common out there! No one does it here. No one!  We had one for awhile but the pole started tipping in. I wonder if we could put a line between that pole and the shed. Hm,...

 

 

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